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From my sermon on Ephesians 5:22-33:

Romance and falling in love is a wonderful and beautiful thing. But friends, re-falling in love with your spouse, over and over, after seasons of pain or hurt or exhaustion, after bodies decaying, after wounding each other, after disappointing each other, after trial upon trial, after the newness has long wore off, after loads and loads of diapers, after miles going to and from ball games, is a profoundly more beautiful thing. Listen, when you are a young with flawless skin and fit bodies and no kids and no bills it’s pretty easy to fall in love. It’s really easy. It’s simple to fall in love. That’s why Hollywood makes so many movies about it and writes so many songs about it. But staying in love and remaining with each other after being disappointed or sinned against by the same person so often, that’s what Hollywood should make movies about … but they don’t generally.


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Yes folks, this really happens and it really is being advocated as a healthy and responsible lifestyle. Of course, if there are no boundaries or absolutes, why not? If we can redefine sexuality and gender and everything else, why would there be any lines anywhere? Makes sense. Makes wicked sense.

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It seems so, at least in one, major aspect or institution. Read on.

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Been a while since I’ve touted a book on Tuesday. Sorry about that. So, here’s the latest installment. It’s a book that I read a few years ago and I am rereading right now. It’s called When Sinners Say I Do. Here’s a good question for you: “What happens when two selfish, sinful people say ‘I do’?” Answer: a lot of trouble, fireworks, problems, war, epic battles, etc. You get the picture. Yeah, I know that sounds so pessimistic, so unromantic, so unHallmarkish. But it’s true. For 99% of marriages, marriage does not bring out the best in us, at least not at first. It actually brings out the worst. Nothing like marriage to expose your flaws. And it does. Now, here’s the kicker. According the author, Dave Harvey, and according to the gospel, that’s actually good news. It’s good news because once you see yourself with all your flaws you can actually begin to work on those flaws and become the person God wants you to be. It’s good news because once you recognize this fact about yourself, that you are deeply flawed, you can begin to learn humility and grace toward others. It’s good news because once you figure out that you are your biggest marriage problem, you can quit blame-shifting and discover real change. And there’s a whole lot more: forgiveness, patience, kindness, generosity, and more. Of course, there is a caveat to all this. This is only good news if you believe the good news of Jesus, if his good news has impacted your life. Otherwise, the exposure of your sinfulness only leads to despair and more problems. That’s why this book is so good. It’s so good because it is so good at exposing your sin and exposing the love of God in Christ Jesus through the cross and resurrection. What happens when two selfish, sinful people say ‘I do’?” If Jesus is involved, some really great things! I highly tout this book.

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Wow, our society is so confused. Read this article. Use discernment. Do you see the problems and lies? Here’s one: the article admits that divorce is devastating to children. The solution? One proposal was simply to destigmatize divorce … not stay married. Amazing.

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Click here and watch prayerfully. BTW, I was here when it was preached. Look at the bottom of the screen … bald patch and green shirt. Maybe I should get a t-shirt.

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The following is an article that I am posting from the pen of Doug Wilson. I do so not because I agree with everything Wilson says on all issues (although I do on the issue at task in this article). I do so because I think it is informative and because he does a good job at helping you see how to think through the muddy postmodernism of our culture and the illogical reasoning of so many. To me, this is an example of how you take every thought captive to Christ. Here it is:

I sometimes think that secularists, including the conservative ones, have never heard of Venn diagrams. The concept of overlapping spheres of thought continues to elude them. The idea of layered hierarchies is floating above their heads, just out of reach.

If you point out the incoherence of secularism (or say that you do such a thing repeatedly, over the course of years), they will just come back at you with what they think is a deep Jeffersonian retort (“separation of church and state!”), but which is actually just another coup manqué from the historical/political illiterati, which is actually a degree field at Harvard now.

Here is an article, rich with examples of such fruitesqueries.

For example, Barbara Ann Fenton, said this while urging Republican tolerance for homosexuality:

“As a Roman Catholic, there’s nobody in this room who believes (more than I do) that the definition of marriage is between one man and one woman, but those are my religious beliefs,” Fenton said as she made the motion Monday. “This country was founded on the separation of church and state.”

Nothing demonstrates the emptiness of secularism, as hollow a three-gallon jug, lying on its side with the cap off, more than statements like this. My views against theft, murder, and rape are also my religious views. What does that have to do with whether there should be laws concerning such activities?

Another Republican, Themis Klarides said this about the desire of some to have homosexuals more openly accepted by the Republican party.

“This speaks to the heart of what Republicans believe in — less government interference in our lives,” Klarides said. “We want our party to focus on growth and the economy and allowing us to thrive as a people, not on telling people what they should do in our private lives.”

Would someone please define “private lives”? What do we mean by it? If marriage is part of my private life, then why did I make my vows in public? Why is my marriage registered at the county courthouse? What do you mean, private? Why would the government be involved in the disposition of a married couple’s assets if “all that” was part of their private life? What are you people talking about? If a man married to a man is private, and that is the grounds for accepting it, then why isn’t a man married to three women just as private? I say this while granting that Solomon’s marital activity could probably be recognized as public under any set of definitions.

R. Clarke Cooper, head of the Log Cabin Republicans, said the “true definition of conservatism” is centered on “individual liberty and not having the government involved in your personal life.”

So there it is again. What do you mean by your “personal life”? A house burglar, operating entirely alone, under the cover of darkness, makes off with your family silver. Is this part of his personal life? If you catch him, what would you think if a helpful neighbor told you that he didn’t think you should prosecute, and that while he personally was a deeply committed Catholic, his views on theft were his religious views, straight out of the catechism, and that our country was founded on separation of church and state? Would your schizo neighbor even slow you down? Would you even stop to argue with him?

Here is a question for all our friends out there who are muddying up public discourse with their vain appeals to the “separation of church and state.” Can a particular activity fall under both religious and civic boundaries? If not, why not? If so, could you please explain how it would be possible then to categorize a view as “religious” and thereby exclude it from any possible consideration as a legal matter? Wouldn’t we need more reasons than that it was a religious view?

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